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May 2025
18m 41s

Ending The Anxious/Avoidant Relational D...

Connor Beaton
About this episode

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychology

If you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attract". Here's how to lower the temperature and move towards something more secure.


(00:00:00) - Intro and what contributes to this dynamic

(00:05:36) - The signs and signals that you’re in the cycle

(00:07:20) - How you break it, step one: figure out how you’re contributing

(00:10:13) - Two: full transparency of where you’re at

(00:12:46) - Three: learn how to lean into yourself OR the relationship

(00:16:24) - The phrase every avoidant needs to know


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