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Sep 2024
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Avoidant Attached Broke Up Suddenly

Annalisa Bahadur
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This is a common phenomenon that most people with an anxious attachment style will experience if they dated someone with an avoidant attachment style. That is of the Avoidant Attached person suddenly running away after a conflict or breaking up. It can be really confusing for their partner and this episode helps us to appreciate why they do it and what we ca ... Show More
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