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Sep 2024
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#155: Fearful Avoidant and Anxious Attac...

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's episode, we're diving into fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment and how it differs from anxious attachment. 

We’ll explore how both types are driven by a fear of abandonment and intense emotions, yet differ in their approaches to intimacy, conflict resolution, and communication. 

Whether you identify with one of these attachment styles or are in a relationship with someone who does, this episode will give you valuable insights into the dynamics at play and how to navigate them for healthier connections.

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