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Nov 2024
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Ep 164: A different look at anxious and ...

Eva Beronius
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Understanding how the attachment style that you developed growing up, is impacting your relationships today, can be very helpful. But as the use of attachment theory in the relationship or dating scene is becoming more popular - so are the misconceptions and conceptualizations that pull us away from the actual experience. Meaning - we are theorizing a very embodied process…

In this episode, I want to bring you into your body and nervous system to understand the response behind what’s commonly called anxious or avoidant attachment. So we can bring more compassion to BOTH responses and embodied ways of loving on them. And I hope to bust some misconceptions about the holy grail of secure attachment.



Check out these related episodes:
Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself
Ep162: 3 ways your trauma shows up in relationships
Ep153: Understanding and practicing honesty
Ep147: Holding goodness in relationships



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