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Apr 22
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Jillian Turecki: 9 Truths About Love Tha...

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About this episode

Why do we stay in the wrong relationships? Is it fear, habit, or the belief that love is supposed to be difficult?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with relationship coach Jillian Turecki for an honest, insightful conversation about why we get stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns—and how to break free from them.

We talk about recognizing red flags early, the psychology behind staying too long, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that’s built to last. Jillian also shares practical advice on healing after heartbreak, letting go with grace, and attracting the kind of love that feels aligned and sustainable.

Whether you’re moving through a breakup, reflecting on past patterns, or simply trying to understand love more deeply, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and perspective.

 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:48 You're the Common Denominator in Every Relationship

03:38 How to Recognize Your Unconscious Dating Patterns

08:52 The Biggest Relationship Mistake People Make

11:15 How to Find Meaning After a Breakup or Divorce

17:51 “Don’t Deny Yourself the Privilege of Moving On”

21:15 Are You Fighting Your Partner—or Your Past?

24:13 Stop Blocking Love

26:13 Love vs Lust

30:56 Why Love Feels Different in Your 20s vs. 30s

32:00 Relationship Deal Breakers

36:45 Can You Really Be Friends with an Ex?

40:09 Is Love Alone Enough to Make a Relationship Work?

45:16 The First Step to Rebuilding Your Relationship with Yourself

47:07 The Secret to Keeping Chemistry Alive in Your Relationship

49:11 You’re Punishing Your Partner Without Realizing It

51:25 Cool Girl vs Good Girl

56:26 Marriage Is Just the Beginning of Self-Work

58:38 Answering audience questions

 

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