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Jul 2024
39m 10s

#215: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do Th...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Mary’s hot take on why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness can leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting state.

You will learn about...

  • why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image
  • how hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life
  • what to focus on instead of “being happy”

Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO

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