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Mar 2024
30m 37s

My Tween is Pulling Away. Is That Normal...

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

As our kids grow up and pull away, it can feel like they're breaking up with us. This week, Dr. Becky talks to a mom wondering why her son feels so distant as he begins middle school. He seems to have plenty of time to play video games and talk to his friends but she feels like she doesn't know anything about his life anymore.

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