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Apr 2023
17m 41s

You are yelling at your child because yo...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
About this episode

Today, I want you to change your guilt around yelling to compassion for yourself for being dysregulated.

Sometimes, we power through our days, weeks, months, and years without addressing our needs. Our brain and nervous system have needs too. If we don't address them, we can't nurture them.

What needs does your nervous system have? What causes you to feel "off"? What makes you feel warm and connected inside?

As a challenge this week, I would like you to start using the terms regualted or dysreguated. Listen to this episode to learn how to do this.

If you want to yell less, recognize what triggers you and learn how to cope with your emotions so that you can model this for your children, join the FREE Wondergrade Emotionally Aware Parent challenge by filling in the form below.

You will get a 28-page workbook and the zoom link to join our weekly support group (Monday nights at 8pm ET) where you can chat about events that triggered you and get some advice from me and my business partner Kristi (a nurse).

See you there!

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Please leave a rating for our podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! You can listen to our podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music. Let me know if you rate the podcast and I will send you a FREE Emotions Moutain PDF to help your child regulate their emotions. Email me at info@curiousneuron.com

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