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Apr 2023
17m 41s

You are yelling at your child because yo...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
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Send us a text Today, I want you to change your guilt around yelling to compassion for yourself for being dysregulated. Sometimes, we power through our days, weeks, months, and years without addressing our needs. Our brain and nervous system have needs too. If we don't address them, we can't nurture them. What needs does your nervous system have? What ca ... Show More
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