External factors can collide with your inner world to set you up for emotional obsession — even when you're a rational person. This creates insecurity, and a heightened dependency on a partner. Learn what those situations are, and how to avoid this negative loop.
Aug 22
Why ‘Who You Are’ Shapes the Love You Attract
The love you get starts with YOU. It's central to the type of person you attract and the key to your happiness. In life and love, it’s all about you. YOU are the centerpiece of every relationship: your attitude, mindset, confidence, and solidity. Give yourself permission to move ... Show More
6m 26s
Feb 2023
How to Break the Spell of Trauma Bond Relationships
<p>Can you be addicted to a person? If romantic relationships turn to obsession, especially after they're over, it's time to heal trauma bonds that "hook" you into people who are selfish, manipulative, and who "blow hot and cold." In this podcast, I respond to a letter ... Show More
41m 20s
Nov 2022
How to Stop Rushing + Obsessing Over Your Relationships
Have you ever found yourself obsessing, spiraling, and rushing your relationships? Maybe you've spent way to much time overanalyzing his texts, stalking his social media, or giving a guy way to much mental real estate. In today's episode, I'm going to help you reclaim your inner ... Show More
15m 22s
Sep 2025
Limerance & Why You Can't Get Them Out Of Your Head
Dr. K unpacks the intense, destabilizing experience of limerance—the obsessive, all consuming “crush” that can hijack your thoughts, emotions, and even your sense of self. He explains how limerance isn’t just infatuation, but a powerful mental state fueled by unmet needs, anxious ... Show More
58m 11s
Feb 2025
How to Detach When Your Feelings Go TOO FAR
<p>Not every obsessive relationship is a romance. Sometimes it’s a friendship that gets through the cracks of the neglect you grew up with in childhood, and it becomes HUGE In your mind. You think about them, you want them to approve of you, you want them to unconditionally love ... Show More
41m 58s
Jan 2024
8 Signs You Have an Anxious Attachment Style
<p>The longing for a companion, a partner to share life's journey with, is a universal desire. The allure of romance and destiny can be captivating, consuming your every thought.</p><p>Yet, in this quest for love, do you find yourself going a bit overboard, perhaps scaring p ... Show More
44m 13s