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Oct 2023
15m 43s

How to Stop Addictive Thoughts About Som...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

“How can I stop addictive thoughts about someone who’s wrong for me?” When we really like someone but know there are signs of problems, we’ll often overvalue them for their charisma and charm . . . and set ourselves up for massive future heartbreak. If you find yourself getting fixated on someone too quickly—trying to make them fit into a relationship based on who they could be—then watch this week’s episode (taken from my Live Retreat) to figure out when someone is truly worthy of your investment.


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