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Nov 2022
15m 22s

How to Stop Rushing + Obsessing Over You...

CARA ALWILL
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Have you ever found yourself obsessing, spiraling, and rushing your relationships? Maybe you've spent way to much time overanalyzing his texts, stalking his social media, or giving a guy way to much mental real estate. In today's episode, I'm going to help you reclaim your inner peace and let go of the obsession so you can step into your best, healthiest, and most confident self.

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