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Jul 2020
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#16: How to Heal Without Closure After a...

BREAK UP BESTIE
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This is another listener advice episode all about closure, or the lack of closure that often doesn't come after a break up. Someone obsessively seeking closure is one of the biggest reasons why you can't move forward after a break up. In this episode I go through why we don't get closure and how we can move on in SPITE of not getting closure. To find out whi ... Show More
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