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May 2022
19m 44s

#7: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap

Stephanie Rigg
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In this episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant trap - aka, what happens when an anxious and an avoidant person end up in a relationship. We'll cover what the anxious-avoidant trap usually entails, how these two attachment styles clash, why they're so often attracted to each other, and most importantly, how to make it work.

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