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Aug 2023
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Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attr...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode
In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ 
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