In this episode, we talk about the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and their conflicted + self-sabotaging ways of experiencing love. I also share my favorite therapeutic strategies to begin cultivating a secure attachment style.
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Sep 10
Dating Securely After Loving an Anxious Attacher
In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to date securely after loving someone with anxious attachment. We’ll explore how an anxious relationship can shape the way you experience closeness, independence, reassurance, and even another person’s disappointment—and how t ... Show More
18m 43s
Aug 31
Secure Attachment Taught Me Discernment
In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest lessons secure attachment has taught me: discernment. I share how my past relationship patterns shaped the way I chose love, how I’ve learned to separate attachment wounds from genuine incompatibility, and why becoming more se ... Show More
23m 28s
Aug 24
Temperament vs. Attachment: Are You Really Anxious or Avoidant?
In this episode, we’re exploring the difference between temperament and attachment and how qualities like independence, sensitivity, introversion, emotional intensity, or a need for connection can interact with our attachment wounds. We’ll also talk about what happens when two pe ... Show More
20m 7s
Apr 2022
#5: 5 Traits of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
<p>In this episode, we're exploring 5 traits of the lesser-known fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We'll cover the fearful avoidant's conflict between wanting intimacy but also fearing it, their combination of anxious and avoidant behaviours, the ... Show More
19m 22s
Apr 2023
how you can HEAL your attachment style for healthy relationships | anxious & avoidant to SECURE
This covers anxious attachment, avoidant attachment and fearful avoidant/disorganised attachment, understanding all 4 attachment styles, how to heal them and achieve a secure attachment style so that you can get and maintain healthy loving relationships, and STOP SELF SABOTAGING ... Show More
32m 1s
May 2022
#7: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap
<p>In this episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant trap - aka, what happens when an anxious and an avoidant person end up in a relationship. We'll cover what the anxious-avoidant trap usually entails, how these two attachment styles clash, why they're so of ... Show More
19m 44s
Jul 2025
#54: The 4 Phases of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap (and How to Break Free)
If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s intense, confusing, and emotionally draining - you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down the 4 predictable phases of the anxious-avoidant trap:✨ The Honeymoon⚡ The Trigger🎢 The Push & Pull😮💨 The ExhaustionYou’ll learn ... Show More
35m 30s
Sep 2025
The Push-Pull and Navigating Second Chances
<p>When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. </p><p>In this episode of <b>Decoding Attachment</b>, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering acti ... Show More
32m 7s