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Sep 2021
9m 46s

Why Are Anxious and Avoidant Attachments...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode
In this episode, I briefly share the psychology behind why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other. This is the most common attachment dynamic, however also the most complicated one due to subconscious factors. Hopefully this episode will give you some clarity! ———My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-sel ... Show More
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