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Jul 2
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The 4 Phases of the Anxious-Avoidant Tra...

Nathalie Nimah
About this episode

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s intense, confusing, and emotionally draining - you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down the 4 predictable phases of the anxious-avoidant trap:
✨ The Honeymoon
⚡ The Trigger
🎢 The Push & Pull
😮‍💨 The Exhaustion

You’ll learn why these dynamics happen, how they keep both partners locked in a cycle of unmet needs, and what it takes to break free. Whether you're currently in this pattern or healing from one, this episode will help you understand your attachment system with more compassion - and take your next step toward security.


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