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Jun 26
13m 25s

The Ugly Truth About Healing Attachment ...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode

You finally meet someone who's consistent, emotionally available, and genuinely cares about you... so why does your nervous system want to run?

In this episode, I break down why healing attachment wounds often feels more uncomfortable before it feels secure. We'll explore what's happening in your brain and nervous system, why healthy love can feel threatening when it's unfamiliar, and how to stop sabotaging the very relationship you've been hoping for.

Ready to become more secure?

🩵 Secure Self Toolkit (Attachment Style Profile, Secure Self Blueprint, Trigger Guide, Communication Scripts, 30-Day Plan & 12+ Rewiring Meditations):
Toolkit Link

📞 Book a Free Attachment Coaching Consultation:
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Remember to keep asking yourself:
"What would Secure Me do?"

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