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Oct 12
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Episode 133: Q&A with Vic: Fear, Fullnes...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

In this episode of Fly To Freedom, Vic and I are back answering your real questions from the community. We’re going deep into the messy, uncomfortable but transformative parts of eating disorder recovery — things like acting in line with your values when fear keeps getting in the way, making peace with fullness when it feels “dirty,” and breaking the hold of external validation.

We also chat about how language shapes your recovery, why you’re not “helpless,” and some powerful ways to work with fear, anxiety and guilt after eating.

Here’s what you’ll hear inside:

  • How to move from “I can’t” to “I won’t” and reclaim your power.

  • Why fullness feels so scary and how to practise being uncomfortable until it becomes safe.

  • Why fruit and veg aren’t always your friend in early re-nourishment — and what to focus on instead.

  • Tools for nervous-system safety when even tiny steps trigger panic.

  • How to stop waiting for your mother’s (or anyone’s) approval and start validating yourself.

  • Why guilt often hits after eating and how to pre-empt it so it loses its grip.

This is an honest, compassionate episode with lots of practical ideas you can start using straight away.

💛 And if you’re looking for real support from people who’ve been there and truly get it, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you. It’s a unique community of people at all stages of recovery, supporting each other through the mess, the milestones, and everything in between. Inside you’ll also find my Feelings Navigator to guide you through hard emotions, monthly coaching calls, live workshops, on-demand recovery courses and of course — me, right there with you every step of the way.

Come and be part of something that actually helps. You don’t have to do this alone.
Join The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle here


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