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Jan 2025
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Inside the Mind of Avoidant Women | Avoi...

Adam Lane Smith & Sarah Dawn Moore
About this episode

This week’s episode features Jessica Preston who dives into the complexities of avoidant attachment in women, exploring personal experiences, emotional patterns, and the impact of past relationships. 

🎙️ Welcome to this eye-opening episode of "I Wish You Knew" with hosts Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media. 

 

The discussion highlights the struggles of avoidant individuals in forming deep connections, the role of masculine and feminine dynamics, and the journey toward self-awareness and healing.

✨ Key Moments ✨

👉 Personal realization of avoidant attachment after multiple divorce

👉 Audience reflections on avoidance and self-acceptance

👉 The preference for being labeled an "island" over "avoidant"

👉 Introduction to the Attachment Repair Program for healing

👉 How avoidance develops as a self-protection mechanism

👉 The impact of avoidant attachment on past relationships

👉 Exploring masculine and feminine dynamics in attachment styles

👉 Evolutionary perspective on avoidant attachment and survival instincts

👉 How early life experiences shape long-term attachment patterns

👉 Navigating relationships with newfound awareness of avoidance

 

This conversation emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, personal growth, and addressing deep-seated attachment issues. Whether you're struggling with avoidance yourself or seeking to understand someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and practical steps toward healing. 🎧 

 

If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘The #1 Reason Most Relationships Fail (And How to Avoid It)’ 

https://youtu.be/o5cxBp1oBGk 

 

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