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Jun 2025
12m 15s

#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate with anxious attachment can become powerful strengths in our relationships and our lives.

I’ll be exploring:

  • Why it’s important to move beyond pathologising anxious attachment
  • The qualities that often develop through lived experience with this pattern
  • How your sensitivity, attunement, and relational depth can become assets
  • The difference between operating from fear vs. secure self-expression
  • How to start embracing your relational gifts without losing yourself

Whether you're in the thick of healing or just starting to understand your patterns, I hope this episode leaves you feeling acknowledged for all that is beautiful about you!

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