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Oct 1
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Jay’s Must-Listens: Are You Still Holdin...

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About this episode

Is there something from childhood you still carry?

How do you think it still affects you today?

In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay revisits some of the most transformative conversations on trauma, healing, and resilience. Featuring insights from Dr. Gabor Maté, John Legend, Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Bruce Perry, and Anitta, Jay uncovers how unaddressed wounds can quietly shape the way we live, and more importantly, how we can begin the journey toward understanding, growth, and true healing.

From Dr. Gabor Maté’s wisdom on the unseen toll of suppressing our authentic selves, to John Legend’s candid reflections on grief and loss, each conversation uncovers a unique layer of what it means to hold pain and still pursue growth. Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry invite us to shift the question from “What’s wrong with me? to “What happened to me?”—a powerful reframe that transforms shame into compassion. Anita’s story of releasing inherited fears reminds us that even generational wounds can heal when we bring them into the light.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Recognize Hidden Trauma

How to Grieve Without Losing Connection

How to Reframe “What’s Wrong” Into “What Happened”

How to Understand the Impact of Childhood Neglect

How to Transform Inherited Fears Into Strength

How to Begin Healing Through Awareness

Healing is never a straight line, but every step you take toward understanding yourself is a step toward freedom. When you give yourself permission to feel, reflect, and release, you begin to transform what once held you back into a source of strength to move forward. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:45 Choosing the Pain That Frees You

05:55 Free Yourself from Outside Opinions 

08:15 Trauma Is an Unhealed Wound

10:28 Learning to Carry Grief with Love

15:05 How Childhood Neglect Shapes Adulthood

18:29 Building a Grounded, Centered Self

20:40 The Power of Asking “What Happened to You?”

25:15 The Hidden Impact of Spanking Children

30:38 Maternal Stress Can Transfer to Children

35:47 Choosing to Break Generational Trauma

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