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Sep 18
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178: Fear of Abandonment Part 2: Moving ...

MaryAnn Walker: Life Coach for Empaths, Highly Sensitive People & People Pleasers
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Do you ever feel like no matter how much you give, it’s still not enough to keep people from leaving? If you’ve ever struggled with people pleasing, conflict avoidance, or overgiving, chances are the fear of abandonment has been running the show—and with it, the painful habit of self-abandonment.

In this episode of Inner Work with MaryAnn Walker, we’re diving deep into why self-love is the antidote to the fear of abandonment. When you learn to stop abandoning yourself, you stop clinging to relationships out of fear and start creating authentic connections rooted in love, mutual respect, and trust.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

  • The hidden connection between self-abandonment and the fear of abandonment.
  • How your nervous system confuses old survival instincts with present-day relationships.
  • The difference between fear-driven thoughts and love-driven truths.
  • Practical examples of how to recognize when you’re acting out of fear—and how to shift into love instead.
  • Why prioritizing self-love is not selfish, but the foundation for healthy, lasting relationships.

Challenge for the Week

This week, notice where fear is running the show in your relationships. Ask yourself:
👉 Am I acting out of fear of abandonment—or from a place of self-love?
Then take one small action rooted in love for yourself, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

Work With Me

If you’re ready to break free from people pleasing and start building relationships that feel safe, nourishing, and authentic, I’d love to support you. I currently offer 6- and 12-week coaching packages designed for recovering people pleasers who are ready to stop self-abandoning and start thriving.

Visit www.maryannwalker.life
or email me at maryann@maryannwalker.life
to check availability or join my waitlist today.

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