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Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.

In this episode, I’m talking about why advocacy feels so hard and why our nervous systems often default to people-pleasing instead of speaking up. I’ll also share three practical communication strategies that help you ask for what you need without collapsing into shame or guilt. These tools will help you protect your energy, clarify your relationships, and model consent while staying in integrity with yourself. Advocacy isn’t about being difficult. It’s about finally belonging to yourself first.

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