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Aug 2024
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408 SelfWork: How To Be There For Someon...

MARGARET ROBINSON RUTHERFORD PHD
About this episode

Today we’re focusing on the tools necessary to help you listen and "how to be there” for someone else.

We'll discuss what it’s like to listen to the stories of those who trust you to create a safe space for them to talk – and what it means to “be there” for someone. What it’s like to hear things that are very hard to hear. And what it’s like to carry on with your own life as you do so. I’m going to offer a list of eleven necessary tools that I’ve learned to use over the years. What I hope is that that list is helpful to you as you go about the business of loving others and being there emotionally for them.

I should say that this episode isn’t a substitute for any mental health treatment that you might choose or need.

And I have two listener contacts to share with you, both of which made me smile.

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My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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