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Dealing With An Avoidant's Silent Treatm...

Connor Beaton
About this episode

I dive deep into the silent treatment often used by avoidant partners—and what it really means. I share why this behavior isn't always intentional, how it impacts you emotionally, and what practical steps you can take to respond in a grounded, respectful way.

As someone who used to be avoidant myself, I get the struggle from both sides. If you’re trying to navigate this dynamic in a relationship, this episode will give you clarity and tools to build healthier communication.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Understanding the Silent Treatment

01:28 Why Avoidants Pull Away

03:09 Core Beliefs of the Avoidant Mindset

05:22 Nervous System Triggers and Silence

08:23 The Emotional Impact on You

10:35 Step 1: Ground Yourself

11:50 Step 2: Communicate Assertively

13:30 Step 3: Reinforce Choice and Set Agreements

17:45 Invitation Over Demand: The Path Forward

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