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Apr 8
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If You Always Feel Like the ‘Bad Guy’—Yo...

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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on June 11, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we're all about empowering women to recognize their worth and set those necessary boundaries. Today, my special guest is the incredible therapist and boundaries expert, Nedra Tawwab.


Guys, if you're finding yourself in relationships where you’re constantly questioning, compromising, or downright losing your mind trying to keep the peace, listen up. Nedra Tawwab is here to reveal the key signs of manipulation, specifically gaslighting, and how to navigate these toxic situations with strength and grace.


We're diving into gaslighting – what it truly means, how to spot it, and most importantly, how to stand firm in your truth without apologizing just to keep the peace. This episode is a must-listen if you're ready to reclaim your power, set healthy boundaries, and thrive in every relationship.

Prepare to take notes, because Nedra is dropping some serious wisdom bombs on transforming those damaging dynamics and empowering ourselves through practical and actionable steps.


SHOWNOTES

00:00 Nedra on Self-Mistreatment & Choice

00:13 Deep Dive into Gaslighting

00:56 Recognizing Gaslighting in Relationships

01:50 The Reality Behind Gaslighting Tactics

03:02 Questioning Your Sanity vs. Gaslighting

03:53 Apologizing When It's Not Your Fault

05:02 Authentic vs. Peace-Keeping Apologies

07:19 Shifting from Aggression to Assertiveness

08:22 Immediate Steps to Take Control Today

09:00 Accepting Fault and Being Human

10:00 Work Towards Communicating Boundaries

12:05 Handling Accusations with Truth Perspective

14:00 Personal Narrative and Present Change

18:55 Identifying When You Need Boundaries

21:03 Handling Dismissive Responses

23:02 Expanding Your Communication Skills


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