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Apr 2025
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communication mastery series part 1: com...

Mollie Adler
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The way you communicate will either open doors or shut them. It’s time you start mastering it. You’ve been talking your whole life, but what if your words are failing you? What if your communication is costing you relationships, opportunities, and peace of mind? We’re conditioned to think that just “saying what we feel” is enough, but deep down, we know there’s more to it than that.


In this episode, we’ll start to unravel the truth about why communication is broken for so many of us. The things we haven’t been taught. How to get what we need from others, how to assert ourselves without guilt, and how to create connections that actually last. I’m not here to sugarcoat things. I’m here to show you how you’ve been holding yourself back. What you weren’t told growing up is that communication is power. If you don’t know how to wield it, you give that power away. You let others control the narrative, control your relationships, and control how they see you.


We’ll take a look at why so many of us struggle to communicate effectively. Why we’re misunderstood, why we feel like we’re always fighting to be heard, and why poor emotional regulation plays a huge role in all of it. I’ll share some of my own painful lessons, too. Times when I let my emotions hijack me and ended up sabotaging the very connections I was trying to build. We won’t just dissect the problem. I’ll also give you tools to fix it. We’re going to explore the lost art of rhetoric. The ancient skill that the best communicators used to reshape their reality and influence everything around them. You’re not broken, but your communication could use some serious work. And that’s where we’ll start.


We’ll also talk about the difference between manipulation and assertion. Many people get scared to speak with power because they fear they’ll be labeled manipulative, but learning how to communicate powerfully is not the same as trying to control or manipulate others. You’ll learn how to take back control of your own voice without crossing that line. I’ll show you exactly how your emotions have been controlling your interactions and how to break free from that. It’s time to stop reacting and start communicating from a place of strength. I’ll walk you through real examples. Where I messed up, and how you can do it differently.


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