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Sep 15
36m 12s

When Anxiety Targets Your Relationship: ...

Jess Eden | Therapy With Jess
About this episode

Ever find yourself stuck in endless “what if” thoughts about your partner? “Do I really love them? Are we meant to be together? What if I’m making a huge mistake?" 

Or find yourself comparing your partner or your relationship to others even though you know that you're happy in your relationship. 

In this episode of Anxiously Capable, we’re diving deep into Relationship OCD (ROCD) a subtype of OCD where intrusive thoughts, doubts and compulsions focus on your relationship and compatibility. We’ll explore:

  • What an OCD subtype is and why it matters
  • The difference between normal relationship doubts and ROCD
  • Common obsessions (like “what if I don’t love them enough?”) and compulsions (like reassurance-seeking, checking, or avoiding milestones)
  • Why ROCD is so sneaky and feels so convincing
  • What actually helps (and what makes things worse) when you’re stuck in the cycle

If you’ve ever felt like your relationship anxiety is taking over your life, this episode is here to help you feel less alone. 

✨ Resources mentioned: 

NOCD (treatmyocd.com),  (forum, OCD therapist directory)

https://rocd.net

What is relationship OCD? Signs, Symptoms & Treatment

Relationship OCD: Symptoms, Risk Factors, and Treatment

The OCD Stories Podcast, 

Disordered Podcast, 

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