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Jan 2024
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Episode 355 - Relationship OCD & Wanting...

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Relationship OCD is an often misunderstood form of OCD. People can sometimes even question if it's actually a thing at all. ´Doesn't everyone worry abut their relationships?´is a common remark. 

But when normal concerns and worries turn into obsessions that consume your days, when anxiety about whether to end a relationship or remain, is crushing your spirit and making git feel impossible to enjoy your relationship, then you may well be struggling with ROCD. 

Characterised by it's incessant main compulsion, reassurance seeking, ROCD is a subtype of OCD where people feel unable to enjoy their relationships because they are always obsessing about them and if they are the right relationship for them. 

Today I discuss ROCD and letting go of the search for the 'just right feeling' that tends to keep people stuck in the ROCD mire. If you have any questions about anything I speak about today, then please feel free to let me know and I hope you enjoy.

Disclaimer:

Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.

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