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Nov 10
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Anxiety in Dating & Relationships: Why Y...

Jess Eden | Therapy With Jess
About this episode

If you’ve ever been called “clingy,” “too much,” or feel like you need constant reassurance from your partner, this episode is for you.

We’re talking about what’s really going on underneath that anxiety in your relationships, the constant need for reassurance and the times you feel your partner pulling away. 

Because it’s not that you’re too much or that you only attract emotionally unavailable people.

In this episode, we unpack how insecure/ anxious attachments develops, what it looks like in relationships, and how you can begin to feel more secure. 

It’s a really honest, compassionate conversation with the lovely integrative psychotherapist Lauren (@therapywithlauren_) about understanding your patterns, quieting the fear of rejection, and learning to trust that you’re safe to love and be loved.

About Lauren

I am an integrative psychotherapist who has been in practice for 4+ years. I specialise in relational trauma, working mainly with attachment wounds, domestic abuse and childhood trauma. My work is currently split across two sectors - one being my own private practice and the other working for a private health care company. In the past I worked at a domestic abuse charity and delivered a mental health programme on behalf of the DWP. I work in a trauma-informed way embodying all aspects of what makes us human and believe that therapy is so much more than our thoughts and feelings!

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