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Sep 12
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Episode 33 Learning to Say No Without Fe...

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Most people can recall a moment when they agreed to something they really did not want to do. Maybe it was staying late at work for the third time this week, attending a social gathering when you desperately needed rest, or taking on yet another commitment that stretched your already thin resources. The word no sits heavy on our tongues, often replaced by a reluctant yes that leaves us feeling resentful and overwhelmed.

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