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May 12
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The Problem with Being Too Nice: How to ...

Kwame Christian Esq., M.A.
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Saying "yes" when you mean "no" is a slow poison. ⁠Buy The Book Defy: The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes⁠ In this episode, Dr. Sunita Sah, a physician turned organizational psychologist, reveals the hidden costs of excessive compliance and how it silently destroys your self-worth. Learn why we mistake compliance for consent, how social conditio ... Show More
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