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Sep 2025
1h 9m

Why People-Pleasing Makes You Lose Yours...

Kwame Christian Esq., M.A.
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Why do we keep ending up in toxic relationships — even when we know better? ⁠Buy the book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back ⁠ In this powerful conversation, Kwame Christian sits down with psychologist and trauma therapist Dr. Ingrid Clayton to explore the hidden reason behind this pattern: the fawnin ... Show More
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