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Jul 2024
40m 40s

Is People Pleasing Hurting Your Career?

Morra Aarons-Mele
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If you fall into certain people-pleasing behaviors at work, we have news: it’s not just an individual problem. Kathleen Smith, therapist and author of the new book True to You, explains how relationships, family ghosts, and systems inform our behavior in all kinds of ways, both inside and outside of the workplace. She explains how family systems theory is a ... Show More
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