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Mar 2021
31m 51s

#4: How to Stop People Pleasing (and WHY...

Gloria Zhang, MA
About this episode

Are you a people pleaser and can't stop caring about what other people think? The people pleasing brain affects EVERYTHING that you do in life. In this episode, I'll show you how to change this pattern without shaming yourself.

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Episode Highlights:

  • The common misconception about "people pleasing" and what it really is
  • I share how I used to feel like a human chameleon, and why people pleasing is how I ended up playing in bands, influencing my fashion, career choices and more 
  • How a former client stopped people pleasing his girlfriend
  • Attachment Styles and what they have to do with it

Hey bestie! My mission is to help High-Achievers and people-pleasers heal their Inner Child and find healthy love, especially those who desire an extraordinary connection but often struggle in their relationships. 

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