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Sep 2021

25m 23s

Episode 5: How To Stop People Pleasing

The Holistic Psychologist

About this episode

In this episode, we talk about one of the most common trauma responses: fawning. Fawning is another word for people pleasing. Or believing other people “know better” than we do. We recently made a post on Instagram about people pleasing went viral, so we decided to break down how we learn this pattern, why it creates resentment + low self worth, and how we can take steps to start connecting to our inner knowing.

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