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Aug 26
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Relationship OCD (ft. therapist Tara Mon...

Unbothered
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"Do I love them enough? What if I’m making the wrong choice? What if they don't actually love me?" Welcome to the world of Relationship OCD (ROCD). This week, Chloe is joined by therapist + Trust & Thrive podcast host Tara Montazeri to talk about ROCD and the endless loop of doubt it can create. From intrusive thoughts to compulsions, we break down what ROCD looks like, how it impacts love, and tools for riding the wave instead of spiraling.


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