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Dec 2024
37m 42s

Understanding Avoidant Attachment and it...

Dr Jodi Aman and Lily Aman
About this episode

Hi, I’m Dr. Jodi Aman, and today we’re diving into a relationship topic that hits close to home for so many of us: avoidant attachment. You might have heard about attachment styles before, but we’re going deeper into what avoidant behaviors really are, why they develop, and how they affect our ability to connect with the people we care about. I’m here to share powerful insights, relatable stories, and practical tips to help you navigate these challenges and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Let’s get started!

Episode Summary:
In this episode, I explore the concept of avoidant attachment—a pattern where individuals pull back from intimacy and emotional closeness in relationships. We’ll start by unpacking the roots of avoidant attachment, which often stem from past trauma, unmet emotional needs, or a fear of vulnerability. I’ll help you understand how these behaviors, like distancing, shutting down during conflict, or avoiding deep emotional conversations, often serve as coping mechanisms, not character flaws.

Together, we’ll explore how to identify avoidant tendencies in yourself or your partner and, most importantly, what you can do about them. I’ll share actionable strategies to help you foster open communication, develop empathy, and set healthy boundaries—tools that can make a huge difference in creating stronger, more secure relationships.

This episode also features live coaching with guests Sue and Amy, who are navigating relationships where avoidant attachment plays a role. You’ll hear real-life examples of how to approach and manage these dynamics, offering you relatable and practical insights you can use in your own life.

If you’re ready to better understand yourself or your loved ones and transform avoidant patterns into opportunities for deeper connection, this episode is for you. Let’s dive in!

Key Takeaways:

  1. Avoidant Attachment is a Coping Mechanism: Avoidant behaviors often stem from past trauma or fears of vulnerability. Recognizing this can help in responding with empathy and understanding.
  2. Clear Communication and Boundaries are Essential: Setting clear expectations and boundaries can help both partners feel secure, reducing the need for avoidance.
  3. Encouraging Open Dialogue: Gently inviting your partner to share their feelings without pressure can build trust and encourage more openness.
  4. Prioritize Self-Worth: Maintaining a sense of self-worth and not sacrificing your needs to accommodate avoidant behaviors is crucial.
  5. Healing Requires Participation from Both Partners: Lasting change can only occur if both individuals are willing to work through their fears and address the underlying issues.

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Jodi Aman is a social work doctor with 28 years of experience in clinical practice. She helps clients heal from trauma, understand the world, and reclaim self-confidence. She created C.O.M.P.A.S.S., an emotional wellness curriculum for middle and high school health classes designed to mitigate symptoms of anxiety and depression.

 

You can find hundreds of self-help videos on YouTube @doctorjodi. Also, watch her TEDx Wilmington talk, "Calm Anxious Kids," and read her award-winning book, Anxiety… I'm So Done with You! to learn how to understand and reverse the current mental health crisis. More about Jodi.

 

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