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Jun 11
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"Am I being unreasonable?" - Realistic &...

Nathalie Nimah
About this episode

In this episode, we dive into one of the most confusing and emotionally charged questions in relationships: “Am I asking for too much?”

Whether you’ve felt guilty for needing more closeness, unsure about asking for more emotional connection, or confused when to expect what in dating - this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through practical, real-life examples of both reasonable and unreasonable requests, and show you how to tell the difference based on whether your ask is grounded in self-worth or driven by fear, insecurity, or past wounds.

We’ll explore:

  • Wanting them to text you every day after a couple of dates
  • How much time can I expect to spend with him in dating?
  • Can I expect him to pay for all the dates?
  • Is it unreasonable to want out partner to not be in touch with his ex?
    • Can I expect my partner to come back to repair after conflict within a day?
    • Can I expect gifts from my partner on important occasions?
    • Can I expect my relationship to be passionate forever?


    And much more!


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    🎧 Keeping the spark alive in relationships


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