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Oct 2025
47m 2s

Am I Settling or Just Being Realistic?

Ilana Dunn
About this episode
In this solo episode, I get vulnerable about a big life change I’m going through and what it’s teaching me about growth, and timing. I break down two listener scenarios: one from someone in a long-term relationship wondering if they’re settling because the spark feels missing, and another from a single listener questioning whether to lower their standards or ... Show More
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