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Apr 2025
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Discarded, Ghosted- What To Do? Wed Live

Annalisa Bahadur
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About 10 questions were answered on my usual Wednesday morning Instagram live, which has been uploaded here for your benefit. 

Some of the questions answered are👇👇👇

I was discarded/ghosted by my DA bf. It was so good until that. But a day came where he asked for space, which I said okay to. That space turned to ghosting.. We were long distance and I already had a ticket to go see him in about a week, which can’t be canceled. Im not sure how to move forward. I don’t want to push him away more, and I’ve accepted its done. I think? I’m secure enough to say I don’t deserve this, also understand his situation, and also say that his trauma does not excuse his behavior. 

I don’t know if I should just visit him as a human being, maybe even get my stuff back.

How long did it take me to heal my anxious attachment style and am I completely healed?

How can I stop bumping into him accidentally on purpose - he lives next door but I am doing it too much? 

My partner ghosted me for the past three weeks. Is he aware of how painful this is? Does he have empathy? 

Why do avoidants ask for no contact and need for space? Do they come back? 

Would two anxious attached persons be a good match? 

Can insecure anxious and dismissive avoidant have a successful long term relationship? 

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