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Mar 2025
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Mistakes in Treating Anxious Attachment ...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle. 🚹

We’re diving into: đŸ”„ Why being hard on yourself is making it worse (and what to do instead) đŸ”„ The sneaky ways perfectionism is showing up in your healing process đŸ”„ How to stop intellectualizing and actually feel secure in your body đŸ”„ Why masking your emotions is lowkey ruining your relationships đŸ”„ How to self-soothe without avoidance, isolation, or spiraling

I’ve made these mistakes. My clients have made these mistakes. But the good news? You don’t have to keep making them. đŸ™ŒđŸŒ

So if you’re tired of catching yourself in the same relationship spirals, constantly trying to “fix” things that aren’t broken, or feeling like no amount of journaling and self-work is actually shifting anything
 this episode is for you.

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