What if misery wasn’t something that happened to you—but something you unknowingly created?
We all have habits that screw us over—whether it’s blaming others, scrolling mindlessly on Instagram, or convincing ourselves that “next week” is when we’ll finally start living.
In this episode, I’m calling out the seven most toxic habits that keep people stuck in ... Show More
Apr 28
How to Be Genuinely Interesting - Without performing, pretending, or people-pleasing
There's a story we tell ourselves about interesting people. That they were born that way. That charisma is a trait, not a choice. That fitting in is safe and standing out is risky. None of it is true. Interesting isn't a personality type. It's a decision about how far you're will ... Show More
20m 8s
Apr 24
Your Nervous System Has Been Running Your Life - How to finally take control with Stephen Porges (Inventor of Polyvagal Theory)
How the science of the vagus nerve explains anxiety, ambition, burnout, and the art of becoming who you actually are. Humans, might be the most sophisticated organism on Earth (capable of writing symphonies, landing on the moon, and inventing artisanal sourdough). Yet at our core ... Show More
57m 27s
Nov 2025
A 5-Step Approach to Ending Your Phone Addiction
Our phones make life easier in countless ways. They connect us, inform us, and keep our lives running. But they also creep into every quiet moment, stealing our focus and dulling the satisfaction we find in real experiences.In this episode of Office Hours, I talk about how our ph ... Show More
44m 20s
Sep 2025
How to Let Go of Your Shame, Solved
Chances are, there’s something in your life you feel deeply ashamed about—something you’ve never told anyone, something you can’t even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes fr ... Show More
3h 49m
Sep 2025
8 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Turned 30
What’s the biggest shift you wish you’d made sooner? What advice would you give your younger self before 30? In this special reflection, Jay opens up about the lessons he wishes he’d known before turning 30, insights that could have spared him time, energy, and unnecessary stress ... Show More
32m 31s