Chances are, there’s something in your life you feel deeply ashamed about—something you’ve never told anyone, something you can’t even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes from, why it’s so powerful, how it screws up our lives—and more importantly, how t ... Show More
Jul 1
How to Build Confidence, Solved
Confidence isn't something you build. It's what's left over. You've done the pose. Hands on hips, chest out, an affirmation on a sticky note stuck to the mirror. And then you walked into the room feeling exactly the same, or worse. Here's what nobody tells you: the entire concept ... Show More
4h 4m
Jun 3
How to Change Your Life, Solved
If you've ever tried to change something about yourself, failed, tried again, and concluded you must just be broken, here's some good news: you're probably not broken. You've just been aiming at the wrong target for years. Who you are is actually a layered system. There's your pe ... Show More
5h 6m
May 20
Why We Stay in Bad Relationships, Solved
Why do smart, emotionally aware people stay in relationships that are clearly destroying them? Drew and I dug into the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard marriage, to walk through the seven psychological mechanisms that quietly lock people inside bad relationships and make leaving feel ... Show More
1h 55m
Oct 2024
237. The psychology of shame
Shame follows us everywhere. So many of us are bound by shame about our past, our mistakes, our identity, our looks, our decisions and choices. This can make living a meaningful and fulfilling life incredibly difficult when you have your own personal, shame bully following you ev ... Show More
37m 57s
Oct 2023
166. Why Embracing Shame Will Help You Thrive
<p>#166: Shame is the emotion we feel when we fear that our failures or weaknesses will become known. This fear can lead us to pursue certain outcomes as defenses — money, success, prestige, etc. — or to shy away from challenges that will expose us. In this episode, we discuss ho ... Show More
28m 55s
May 2025
Stop Letting Shame Define You—Transform it Into Your Power
Shame can be a powerful and paralyzing emotion that keeps us stuck in unhealthy patterns. In this video, we dive deep into the difference between shame and guilt, explore the origin of shame, and discuss how to reframe it into a tool for personal growth. Learn how to take respons ... Show More
14m 54s