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Feb 2025
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63. Why You Never Feel Good Enough – The...

Devamsha Gunput and Farah Raja
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Do you ever feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough?

In this episode, we’re talking about the pressure to succeed, the struggle to celebrate wins, and why so many of us feel like our goals are obligations rather than choices.We break down how high expectations in childhood shape our need for external validation, why we constantly move the goalpost, and how to start actually enjoying success instead of just surviving it.

Plus, practical ways to celebrate yourself without guilt, and how learning to rest is one of the most powerful things you can do.00:00 Introduction03:45 “I Don’t Celebrate My Achievements – Why Is That?”09:20 The Pressure of High Expectations & Childhood Conditioning14:55 Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals – Are You Doing This for You?21:30 Why Rest Feels Uncomfortable (And How to Fix It)27:50 Small Wins Matter – How to Celebrate Yourself More34:15 Learning to Sit in Stillness & Be Proud of YourselfDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

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