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Nov 2023
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142. The curse of being an overachiever

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In this week's episode we discuss the curse of being an overachiever. Society celebrates us for our successes, for our ability to work hard, push ourselves and constantly be the best. But this sometimes has contradictory consequences whereby the more we invest in our achievements, the less satisfaction and fulfillment we feel. We break down the paradox of being an overachiever and explore: 

  • The impact of being labelled a 'gifted child'
  • Golden child syndrome and family expectations
  • External validation
  • The overachiever's identity crisis 
  • The burnout cycle 
  • Learning your limits and redefining success 

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