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May 2025
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293. Why are we never happy with what we...

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Why does satisfaction always feel just out of reach? You get the job, then you want the promotion. You buy the item of clothing, then the buzz wears off. There is always something MORE on the horizon.  In today’s episode, we explore the psychology behind our constant craving for more - more success, more validation, more things - and why what we already have never feels like enough. Things we discuss: 

  • Why your brain is wired for "more, more, more

  • The Hedonic Treadmill

  • The problem with "when...then" thinking

  • The success void that follows meeting our goals

  • The guilt spiral

  • Capitalism, consumerism, and curated online lives

  • What real, sustainable happiness looks like

If you’ve ever thought “I should be happy…so why am I not?”—this episode is for you. Listen now!

 

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