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Feb 2025
23m 32s

#176: Conscious Dating: How to Raise You...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, we're talking all about conscious dating and how you can raise your standards and date from a place of grounded self-confidence and self-worth. Many anxiously attached people struggle a lot with dating, experiencing anxiety, insecurity and self-doubt every step of the way. This can naturally block us from connecting with others in a way that feels healthy and authentic. 

We'll cover:

  • the importance of dating with intentionality 
  • common mindset pitfalls
  • identifying your values, non-negotiables and deal-breakers

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