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Jun 2025
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If You Can’t Get Over Your Ex—Listen to ...

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About this episode

Do you still think about your ex a lot?

What’s been the hardest part of moving on?

Today, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical guide for anyone moving through heartbreak. He explains that the pain of a breakup often comes from more than just losing someone, but it’s grieving the life we imagined with them and the version of ourselves we felt when we were loved.

Jay walks through seven clear steps to help listeners begin their healing journey. From gaining clarity to quieting the overthinking spiral and finding your own closure, he offers real, actionable tools to help you move forward. Jay reminds listeners that you’re not missing them, you’re missing the idea of them. And that pain doesn’t mean the relationship was meant to be, it means you cared.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Romanticizing the Past

How to Stop Blaming Yourself

How to Rebuild After a Breakup

How to Trust Yourself Again

How to Know It Wasn’t Love

Healing is possible even if it doesn't feel like it right now. It’s not about getting back to who you were before, it’s about becoming someone stronger, wiser, and more self-aware.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:53 Are You Heartbroken?

03:18 Step #1: Let Go of the Fantasy You Created

07:08 The Three Most Important Things in a Relationship

08:45 Step #2: Stop the Obsession Spiral

13:39 Step #3: Kill the Narrative that It Was Your Fault

17:28 Step #4: Find Closure On Your Own Terms

19:42 Step #5: Feeling Pain Doesn't Mean It Was Meant to Be

21:37 Step #6: Redirect Your Energy 

22:18 Step #7: Stop Waiting to Feel Ready

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